You have heard it has been said “the struggle is real.” I say, so is the Blessing. Coming from the angle of having birthed two children my main focus is to teach you things Christ has placed in my heart and shown me along the way thus far. I believe these reminders will bring you understanding, more peace and a little more patience and love.
Back in 2013 I was Blessed with my first born. Dang, I never knew how hard motherhood truly was. From being in the NICU with my premature baby who was 2 lbs for almost 4 months, to coming home with an Apnea machine, pumping breast milk every 2 hours, sleepless nights, you get the gist. The minute my son was born there was always a need. A need for a savings account for his future college funds, a need for another savings account to purchase his future car when he turns 18, a need for back up emergency funds in case anything happens, a need for diapers, clothes, food, a baby sitter you get the gist.
Back in 2016 I birthed my second child. The need I had once upon a time doubled. I work FT and so does my husband, but the reality is exactly -what it is. We are the average Millennial’s maintaining what we have. Not only do we work FT and make an average living but my husbands income decreases, so we are not only left with two babies and double the needs, but we have less income to maintain what we have.
During this season in my life I start thinking to myself. Lord we always make things work, but this is tough. I start thinking about the needs of the children and how hard it’s going to be not only to meet their needs but to maintain the bills, food for the house, etc.
The Lord started to show me life is all about perspective. Those extra saving accounts are not life or death accounts those are wants not needs. Also, the Lord started to show me that as long as there is a roof over your head, food on the table and ways for you to get back and forth to and from work you are already at a winning stage. So I was like BUT what about clothes and sneakers for my babies as the outgrow certain things- I feel like I can’t even get them the basics without worrying about my household having enough. Than the Lord started to show me more of who I am today as a woman. Asking me things like what is enough for you?
Than the Lord started to show me, your an amazing money manager, you go without doing your nails more than half of the year, as a woman you go without shopping for increments of months at a time, you go without the desire for new shoes, new clothes, new purses. So- I start thinking- OK. So because I do these things I deserve some type of recognition. For being a good mother, for investing in my children. Than Christ starts to show me- No woman -this is what parenting is about! You will not and should not look to receive a pat on the shoulder from anyone for doing the things your suppose to do for your kids. You are supposed to invest in them and sacrifice yourself this is what motherhood is about. Don’t look for recognition- simply be who you were called to be as a mother and be content where you are and with what you have!
So during this season in my life I have learned that life is about perspective. Not only is it about perspective but sometimes, less is more. How? I have no clue, but the Lord does things that will blow your mind. After all the worrying and battling with myself about how my household will maintain this season- I find myself shopping for our babies constantly, I find us going out to restaurants to eat, going on vacation, putting our kids into sports, doing my nails here and there, shopping here and there. Why? because we invest into them and we kill our ego and desires and wants. Which is why I’m left with a filled heart full of joy. You see joy isn’t something you maintain -joy is a free gift that you receive once you accept Christ and let him guide you.
God will bring you through seasons for you to learn and grow, to open up your eyes, to be content with what you have. This way when he sees you are faithful with the little he will give you much. Now will that much be the “house” I wish to have for my children one day? Maybe, maybe not. Either way my reward is in heaven. For me that is enough! That brings joy, peace, hope.
BUT your desires have to be set on the right things. You cant be the person who purchases new vehicles, desires to shop for self, desires to have what others have and want what others want, you cant desire as a mother to do your nails and hair constantly, to have new purses, bags, shoes all the time and say to yourself- I have pride I pay for all my stuff on my own- THAN LATER TURN AROUND to say I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH for my children, I WILL NEVER HAVE ENOUGH, I NEED MORE, GIVE ME-GIVE ME. Noooo, you don’t have pride, you have issues and your parenting priorities are out of wack. If you become that person God will give you exactly what you desire in this life time. When you die and go to heaven with a heart like that. God might turn around and say where is the God that you worshiped the whole time you were on earth? You know those nice clothes, shoes, bags? Why can’t they save you? Where is you know that PRIDE you had-that got Satan kicked out out of heaven in the first place?
This is why the Bible tells us to become little so God can be great. The bible tells us to decrease so he can increase. The way we think, see, act, love and feel. You have to allow Christ to change you, shape you, mold you to become a little Christ. This means humility, this means killing yourself to allow the Spirit in you to live and guide you.